Just because they're way past the age of flower girl and ring bearer doesn't mean they can't play a part in the occasion.

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Giving your children a role to play at your wedding ceremony (whether for a vow renewal or for a second marriage) is a tangible way to say, "I love you and want to include you." But it's not as obvious what role to give them when they're adults. But there are actually quite a few meaningful options to choose from, and we're outlining them below.

Giving Away the Bride

Traditionally, a man, usually the bride's father, gives her away. This is a perfect job for a grown son to take on. Walking his beloved mom down the aisle as she holds onto his arm will be a sweet moment. But don't shortchange your female offspring: It's also the perfect job for a grown daughter.

Best Man

If the groom and his son are close or you want to adopt a southern tradition, the groom's son could act as his dad's best man. (A rowdy pre-ceremony bachelor party may or may not be included!)

Maid of Honor

You can ask your adult daughter to be the maid of honor. If the two of you already have nightly chat sessions, now you'll be on the phone even longer planning the wedding!

Ceremony Reader

This job is often given to the mother of the bride or groom, so consider an about-face by asking your grown child to perform a reading as part of the ceremony.

Ceremony Officiant

What could be better than one of your adult children officiating at your wedding? They know you well and love you a lot, so why not ask your son or daughter to marry you off? Since some states have vague guidelines about whether they recognize officiants ordained online—and, therefore, the marriages they perform—check with your local town or city clerk's office to find out what's needed to make it legal.

Reception Toast

Someone hand your son or daughter a mic—they've got plenty of material on their mom or dad and can't wait to share it with the reception crowd! Keep the number of speakers to a minimum to underscore the importance of those chosen to talk.


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