Avoid an open-mic feel at your reception and determine ahead of time who gets to speak.
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Toasts are a beloved wedding tradition that offer personal glimpses of the newlyweds by a few friends or family members who know them best. But sometimes random guests also want to make declarations (and share amusing anecdotes) with the crowd. Make sure your A-team gets the first opportunity to speak by designating a toasting order ahead of time; share it with the speakers and give a copy to the emcee who can call the speakers up to the mic when it's their turn. Follow the order below, then, if you want, the emcee (or best man or bandleader) can ask if anyone else wants to say a few words. (Take "a few words" literally-a toast should be brief, not rambling, or the audience will tune out.) Here are the primary speakers and the traditional order they go in.

The Best Man

He's the only person who is traditionally expected to toast the bride and groom. He also acts as emcee during the toasts, introducing each of the next speakers.

The Maid of Honor

The bride's best girl often stands up and shares her own sincere, sentimental thoughts with the crowd.

The Bride and Groom

They can get up separately or together to thank everyone for being an unforgettable part of their special day. While looking at his radiant bride, the groom may say something along the lines of "I'm the luckiest guy in the world" as the room applauds.

The Bride's Parents

If they're the hosts, one or both may want to thank their guests and recount warm memories of their daughter and son-in-law.

The Groom's Parents

They can get up and get sentimental about their son and his new spouse, too.


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