Do You Have to Let Your Guests Give Wedding Toasts?
Do you have to allow guests to give wedding toasts? The short answer is no. However, you may have some pushy family members or close friends who absolutely insist. In order to avoid an open mic wedding, you'll need to plan who will speak, when speeches will take place, and how to quickly put an end to a long-winded speech. Follow these tips to ensure guests can't make a grab for the microphone at your reception.
Plan the flow of your reception wisely.
Speeches take up a good amount of time and time is precious at your wedding reception. If you're including a few speeches, timing them between meal services is usually the most efficient way to handle them. You may also plan to host speeches at the end of the meal, just before cutting the cake. If you're planning to allow multiple speeches, it's best to limit them to one or two at a time with food or activity breaks between.
Plan to include speeches another evening.
Many of today's couples are opting to have more of an open mic night at their welcome reception or rehearsal dinner. This can be a kind of unplanned, unscripted ordeal and allows for more playful speeches and anecdotes about the bride and groom.
Be specific about who will speak at the wedding.
The wedding reception is a good time for parents and key attendants, as well as the couple, to give speeches. Plan it out beforehand with the people you'd like to see speak and stick to the schedule so there's no room for unwanted surprises.
Assign a mic keeper.
It's never a good idea to have a microphone floating around at a wedding reception. Be sure the DJ or sound manager is responsible for the mic and understands that only the appointed parties are to give speeches. They'll be happy to be your mic keepers.
Know when to cut the mic.
Every couple has that fear that, after a few too many drinks, a speech will go terribly and embarrass nearly everyone involved. It's incredibly rare, but it does occasionally happen. Have a game plan beforehand. If there's a particular speaker you know could be trouble on the mic, have a chat with them before the wedding to be sure they know this is a wedding speech and not a roast. Have a time cut-off signal with them if things are getting uncomfortable, or jump in with a witty comment to end the misery. Be prepared, but also know you may just have to roll with the punches on this one.
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