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Choosing ceremony readings that speak to you and your relationship are often one of the easiest ways to personalize your wedding. These often include selections from religious works, traditional novels, touching pieces of poetry, and everything in between. If you're struggling to find something that feels suitable to your personalities and to your specific relationship, here are a few pointers that will help you select the perfect reading for your same-sex ceremony.

Keep it personal.

Readings that are just filler during a ceremony always fall flat. Rather than depending on a conventional passage, select something that has meaning to you as a couple. Whether that means reading a love poem, part of a children's story book, song lyrics, a letter, a religious nod, a movie quote, or something written by a person you both love and admire, a ceremony reading should have a very personal quality about it.

Make the reading work for you.

If there's a passage or quote you both love but the text doesn't necessarily reflect your situation, know that you can tweak a reading to suit your needs. You can always switch the pronouns involved to better reflect you and your spouse. As long as you select something that's authentic and that you both love, you really can't go wrong.

Let the tone be serious.

Even if you don't consider yourselves to be very serious people, your wedding guests will be expecting your ceremony reading to have a serious tone to it. That doesn't mean it can't be playful or sweet, but you should steer away from anything comical or suggestive.

Ask friends for quotes.

Rather than sticking with a traditional reading, you might reach out to your closest mutual friends and ask them to send a quote to be read at the wedding. They may send along a movie quote, song lyrics, advice, poetry, or a passage that defines marriage or what it's been like to watch your relationship blossom.

Consider these inspirational ideas.

Plato's "Symposium" inspired the song "Origin of Love" from Hedwig and the Angry Inch and the original text is a romantic story worth retelling to a crowd. Poems from Pablo Neruda, Walt Whitman, and e.e. cummings are great resources for ceremony readings, while Shel Silverstein may provide just the playfulness you're looking for. Favorite plays, songs, books, movies, and poems are all good starting places.


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