Diagram Your Big Day: Jewish Wedding Ceremony Basics
Seating at a Jewish Ceremony
At a traditional, formal Jewish wedding, the bride's side is on the right and the groom's is on the left. The parents stand under the huppa during the ceremony; stepparents may sit in the aisle seats in the third or fifth rows (if they're on the groom's side) or the fourth or sixth rows (if they're on the bride's side), or stand under the huppa if they are very close to the bride or groom.
Row 1. Groom's Grandparents and Siblings
Row 2. Bride's Grandparents and Siblings
Row 3. Groom's Special Guests
Row 4. Bride's Special Guests
Procession at a Jewish Ceremony
The order of the procession at a Jewish ceremony is the same as for a Christian service, except that grandparents, the groom's parents, and the bride's mother all join the processional. The rabbi and the cantor often lead it.
2. Bride's Father
3. Bride's Mother
4. Flower Girl
5. Ring Bearer
7. Groom's Father
8. Groom's Mother
10. Best Man
12. Bride's/Groom's Grandfather
13. Bride's/Groom's Grandmother
Formation at a Jewish Ceremony
As they reach the huppa, ushers and bridesmaids form diagonal lines from the front poles or gather around the huppa; the honor attendant and best man stand next to the bride and groom. The bride and groom's parents stand under the huppa as well. Once the ceremony begins, it is perfectly fine for the children to join their parents.
5. Best Man
6. Honor Attendant
7. Groom's Parents
8. Bride's Parents
9. Ring Bearer
10. Flower Girl
Recession at a Jewish Ceremony
The newlyweds lead, followed by the bride's parents, then the groom's parents, the flower girl and the ring bearer, the honor attendant and the best man, and the bridesmaids and ushers; all are arm in arm, with the women on the men's left arms. Immediately following the ceremony, the bride and groom often take 10 or 15 minutes to themselves in yichud, the symbolic consummation of the marriage.
3. Bride's Parents
4. Groom's Parents
5. Ring Bearer
6. Flower Girl
7. Best Man/Ushers
8. Honor Attendant/Bridesmaids
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