Do You Have to Assign Seats at Your Wedding Reception?
One of the most complicated aspects of planning a wedding is creating a seating chart for the reception. Not only do couples need to divide guests evenly among the tables, they also have to consider family tensions, relationships, friendships, and more. It may seem easier to forgo a seating chart altogether, but is this really a good idea?
First and foremost, it's important to understand the two most common ways couples guide guests to their seats at a wedding reception: with escort cards (or a seating chart) or with place cards. Escort cards assign guests to a particular table, where they can then sit in any chair they'd like. On the other hand, place cards allocate guests to a specific chair at each table. Seating guests in this way is often even more stressful and time-consuming for a couple, especially if they're having a large number of people attend the celebration.
Given the stress of assigning seats at a wedding, couples may think that eliminating a planned seating arrangement of any kind will save unwanted frustration and keep everyone happy. In reality, though, this tempting option raises some pesky issues. Caterers deliver plated meals based on seating assignments. Without this guideline, the catering team will need to approach each guest, inquire about their meal request, then deliver it individually. This wastes precious reception time and creates a frustrating headache for your vendors.
To understand another downside of no seating assignments, think about your guest list. Some people have lots of friends in attendance, while others don't know a soul. Leaving everyone to fend for themselves will most likely result in a chaotic game of musical chairs. While your college friends may gather around one table and squeeze in chairs wherever possible, your two neighbors may have ten empty place settings around them. Even worse, friends or family members with bad blood may be forced to sit next to one another, causing tension or sparking an argument. Your maid-of-honor, best man, or parents may end up in back corner of the reception, while your great aunt thinks she deserves a spot at the head table.
Despite the downsides, having no seating assignment is acceptable in a few select situations. If you're hosting a very small wedding, for example, guests can probably find their own seat without issue. You also won't need place cards or escort cards for a cocktail-style reception, where guests stand and socialize while eating. Consider your desired wedding style and plan accordingly, but remember that many guests won't feel constrained with assigned seating; rather, most will appreciate not having to anxiously search for a seat among strangers. There will be plenty of time after dinner for socializing with wedding guests seated at different tables!
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