You may now kiss the bride (and make it perfect).
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Your first kiss as a married couple can sneakily become a major source of stress during wedding planning. After all, it's not every day you plant a smooch on your significant other in front of all of your family members and friends. To learn how to make the moment memorable, we caught up with Jamie Kirby of Heyday Event Lab and Rebecca Stone and Brandy Curry of Duet Weddings for the tips you'll want to keep in mind as your officiant says, "You may now kiss the bride."

Be Natural

You want your first kiss to be memorable for good reasons, not because it was top five most awkward moments of your life. That's why it's key to keep this special moment authentic to who you are. "When couples feel nervous about their first kiss as a married couple, we always encourage them not to think of it as a performance" say Stone and Curry. "It's their moment, and while it happens to be in front of all of their family and friends, it's important that it feel like it is just the two of them." What does that mean for you? If you're not the dramatic dip type, don't feel like you have to be on the big day.

Get the Officiant Out

"The most important thing for a memorable first kiss is getting the officiant's face out of there!" says Kirby. "I always coach the officiant to step to the side so that the first kiss image is captured without his or her face grinning in the background." Be sure to politely discuss this preference during your ceremony rehearsal or have the photographer mention it before the wedding begins.

Or Get Them Involved

If you're looking for a unique perspective, ask the officiant to lend a helping hand. One of Kirby's favorite "first kiss" scenes was created just like this: "When it was time for the first kiss the officiant pulled a polaroid camera out and took a photo from his perspective of the couple kissing toward the crowd. That photo of the couple kissing with their nearest and dearest in the background smiling, cheering, and clapping is one that they cherish the most."

Think Big

If you really want to go above and beyond, don't be afraid to get your planner and other vendors involved. With a little forethought and a lot of creativity, your first kiss can truly be one for the books. Need a little inspiration? Make Kirby's first kiss vision into a reality. "A dream I have that has not happened yet is a first kiss with surprise musicians. As the couple kisses, music begins to play and a group of musicians can follow the couple out as if it were a joyous parade."


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