The last thing you want to be is tacky.

Giving money to a newly-married couple used to be a no-brainer: You'd slip a few crisp bills into a store-bought wedding card, which you'd hand to the bride and groom later at the reception. Or if the money was in the form of a personal check, you'd probably mail it a few weeks before the big day. At some point after the wedding, you'd get a thank-you card acknowledging your generous gift.

Lots of folks still give cash or a check as a wedding present, but many others are giving monetary gifts through honeymoon and cash registry sites like Honeyfund and Zola. While the sites are easy to use-whether you're designating that your funds should go toward a kayaking excursion or giving a meal kit subscription-the etiquette associated with monetary gifts is still a bit murky. The two most common questions are answered below.

Do you send them a wedding card?

Yes. Even if you used a traditional gift registry, sending a card and wishing the couple happiness is a nice thing to do. And every couple will appreciate a little happy snail mail when they're suffering from the post-wedding blues.

Should you mention the gift in the card?

No. Just as you wouldn't say, "Congratulations! I'm enclosing a $75 check with this card," you wouldn't mention your cash registry gift. Since they already know about it since you sent the gift a few weeks before the wedding, there's no need to remind them in a card.


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