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The New Bridal Shower Rules For Hosting a Unique Party

August 27, 2013
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Learn More About Bridal Showers

If you're a bride, a host, or a guest and you're dreading the bridal shower, it's likely because you associate the party with awkward games, stuffy food, and boring, too-long gift-opening sessions. Before you write off the celebration as another chore on the wedding to-do list, though, you might want to reframe your perspective. Sure, bridal showers of the past involved those toilet-paper wedding dresses you hate, or served tea sandwiches that don't appeal to your appetite, or required the lady of honor to unwrap presents uncomfortably as everyone stared at her. But no one's holding you to yesteryear's standards—it's about time that we made the pre-nuptial event our own. Throw everything you know about bridal showers to the wind, and get updated on what's new and acceptable for the affair.

We've seen a lot of bridal showers in our day, and we've talked to tons of creative planners with unique visions for the soirées. That's why we took it upon ourselves to bend (and even rewrite) the rules. Ahead, see how we scrapped the traditional bridal shower lineup and sought out to inspire a more personalized party. We've provided ideas for your theme, activities, and details, so that no one involved—from the bride to the attendees—leaves the bridal shower you throw disappointed. The purpose of the event is to bond, celebrate, and have fun. These tips and tricks allow you to do just that, and are sure to impress those tired of the same-old, outdated bridal-shower story.

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Pick a Palette

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See Bridal Shower Invitations We Love

When it comes to shower stationery, why not go with colors and an aesthetic that complement what the bride has chosen for the big day? For a wedding taking place at a winery on Long Island, we chose a Minted bridal shower suite in a regal shade of purple that matched the bridesmaid dresses. A kraft paper envelope picked up the colors that would show up at the barn reception.

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Go Somewhere Special

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Just because Grandma will be attending doesn't mean a bridal shower must be held in a family member's living room. For this Brooklyn bride, brunch at Pulino's on the Lower East Side of Manhattan was far more fitting. On the menu? Classic Italian fare.

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Pack Some Décor

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See DIY Centerpieces We Love

When planning a shower at a restaurant, keep in mind your décor must travel. These accordion photo centerpieces were inspired by a Paper + Cup template that's a cinch to customize. Since they fold into perfect rectangles, they are easy-to-transport and still have a personal touch.

We DIY'd the idea to match our palette using Paper Bag and Aubergine cover paper from Paper Source, self-adhesive gold photo corners, and black-and-white photocopies of family pictures.

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Use the restrictions of a prix fixe menu to your advantage. We got a copy of what would be served and handed it off to Minted so they could create a menu card in the same motif as the shower invitation.

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It's All in the Details

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To bring the stationery motif into the table details, Minted printed a set of adhesive drink flags which were attached to gray and white paper straws from Paper Source.

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Dress Your Tables

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Transform restaurant tables into a personalized party space by adding a few simple touches: We created a blue table runner made of wrapping paper then added Mason jars full of baby's breath.

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Schedule an Appearance by the Groom

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A framed photograph of the happy couple, which the bride took home afterward, hung over the table. Here, the bride shares the story behind the picture with her flower girl.

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Play Non-Awkward Icebreakers

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More Bridal Shower Games That Are Actually Fun to Play

Rather than relying on name games, guests instinctively found their faces among the photo centerpieces which then sparked conversations between new acquaintances.

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Serve a Signature Drink

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Glasses of white peach sangria added a pop of color to the tablescape.

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Opt for Family-Style Servings

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Cut out the confusion that comes with a dozen different food orders and opt to go family-style. It'll also ensure that everyone can sample as they please.

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Cook Morning Classics

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See a Brunch-Themed Bridal Shower

For those craving breakfast, Pulino's pancake skillet baked with blueberries and lemon ricotta, shown here, and a cheesy baked egg dish were on the menu.

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... or an Ultimate Lunch Favorite

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Pizza may not be on the every bridal shower menu, but if your bride can't get enough of the doughy stuff, it should be! Guests shared slices of mini margherita pizzas topped with tomato, mozzarella, grana, and basil.

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Create a Hashtag

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Get Tips for Creating Your Wedding Hashtag

The ladies were encouraged to Instagram photos during brunch with a hashtag, making them all easy to find after the event. On the big day, the bride and groom are asking guests to post all their candids on the Wedding Party App for sharing.

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Open Gifts

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Bridal Shower Gifts for the Bride Who Has Everything

The invitations informed guests that gifts were not required, rather their "presence would be their present." A few small gifts, however, were of course welcomed and opened casually throughout the meal.

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Surprise the Guests With Gifts, Too!

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Get DIY Bridal Shower Favor Ideas

Mini bottles of wine with custom labels designed by Minted were handed out as bridal shower favors foreshadowing more winery-themed surprises in store for the big day.

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Remember the Flower Girl

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Get Floral and Plant Favor Ideas

For underage party goers, separate party favors were prettily packaged, including floral hair accessories. The maid of honor also toted home a few jars of baby's breath to decorate her room at home.

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Plan a Scavenger hunt

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Get More Scavenger-Hunt Bridal Shower Ideas

This bridal shower involved a scavenger hunt around the grounds where the wedding was to be held the following weekend. The bride-to-be and her ladies deciphered clues leading them to different spots around the gorgeous property until they ended up at a picnic spot to celebrate the upcoming nuptials. 

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Indulge in a Boozy Sundae Bar

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This retro ice cream parlor bridal shower came complete with ice cream, bourbon, whiskey, and of course all of the candy counter necessities. Ingredients and toppings for the boozy sundaes were displayed in dishes and canisters and arranged in a buffet for guests to enjoy. 

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Accessorize With Flower Combs

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See a Flower Child-Themed Bridal Shower

Guests at this bridal shower were greeted with flower combs. The florist worked with Chinese-inspired pink and red blossoms to create the combs, and each comb was presented with a card for the guests. 

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Dine on a Dessert-Only Spread

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The bride to be's mom brought family heirloom silverware and mix and match dishes for the dessert-only, afternoon shower. The plates of goodies were placed on a table among succulents, terrariums, and the arrangement of roses, dahlias, ranunculus, scabiosa, lysimachia, and chocolate cosmos.

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Embrace a Theme

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See More From This “Grand Budapest Hotel” Bridal Shower

The pastel color scheme served as a nod to Wes Anderson's use of pastels in his movie The Grand Budapest Hotel, which inspired this shower. The table was set with mismatched vintage pieces, and Lilla Bello put together the arrangements of tulips, ranunculus, garden roses, spray roses, and peonies that ran down the center. The pastry chef at The Peninsula re-created Mendl's Courtesan au Chocolat towers from the movie, and the bride, Jenny Bernheim of Margo & Me, even sent guests home with Mendl's to-go boxes filled with sweet treats from the shower.

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Have Fun in a Photo Booth

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Instead of a traditional photo booth, this bride used a Flipbooth, which creates flipbooks instead of traditional photographs. The bright and colorful backdrop was inspired by the bold colors in Wes Anderson's movies.

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2 of 23 Pick a Palette
3 of 23 Go Somewhere Special
4 of 23 Pack Some Décor
5 of 23 Create Menu Cards
6 of 23 It's All in the Details
7 of 23 Dress Your Tables
8 of 23 Schedule an Appearance by the Groom
9 of 23 Play Non-Awkward Icebreakers
10 of 23 Serve a Signature Drink
11 of 23 Opt for Family-Style Servings
12 of 23 Cook Morning Classics
13 of 23 ... or an Ultimate Lunch Favorite
14 of 23 Create a Hashtag
15 of 23 Open Gifts
16 of 23 Surprise the Guests With Gifts, Too!
17 of 23 Remember the Flower Girl
18 of 23 Plan a Scavenger hunt
19 of 23 Indulge in a Boozy Sundae Bar
20 of 23 Accessorize With Flower Combs
21 of 23 Dine on a Dessert-Only Spread
22 of 23 Embrace a Theme
23 of 23 Have Fun in a Photo Booth

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