A Champagne-and-Blush Color Palette Set the Tone for This "Rustic Glam" Wedding in Vallejo, California
Tash, an accountant, and Doshia, a nurse, met during their time at Cal State East Bay in 2009, where they were both involved in the same student organizations. "We started chatting on Facebook Messenger about everything from books to concerts to our favorite foods," the couple says. And when Tash invited Doshia to a barbecue to support one of those groups, Doshia said yes—under one condition: "As long as the barbecue came with a kiss."
Seven years later, Tash told Doshia they were joining a group for wine tasting on a yacht cruise around New York City, but she had secretly booked a private sightseeing tour instead. At the crew's urging, the couple moved to the front of the ship where Tash had a video montage of their relationship waiting—followed by a proposal.
On August 11, 2018, the pair tied the knot at The Lightouse at Glen Cove Marina in Vallejo, California, in front of about 80 of their closest friends and family. "We wanted our wedding to feel a lot like our relationship," they say, "filled with fun and love." Thoughtful music choices throughout the ceremony and reception, custom touches—like lawn games during the cocktail hour and a late-night French fry bar—and a "rustic glam" color palette of blush, champagne, and green created a day that felt like a mix of both Tash and Doshia. "We wanted our wedding to be a true representation of both of our desires," they say. "Both of you should be represented that day. It's okay to get opinions from others but remember that the day is all about the two of you."
Sparkle and Shine
The couple printed their own invites using Minted, choosing a design with shimmering metallic accents to provide a first glimpse of "the glam, with lots of sparkle and gold," that Doshia wanted in the décor scheme.
Her sparkling wedding jewelry tied into the look, too. "I did not want a cookie-cutter ring," says Doshia. "I wanted something vintage, but with some glam." The couple began shopping together a year before the proposal so Tash could get a few ideas; she decided on a Verragio ring in rose gold. Doshia chose a diamond wedding band to complement her engagement ring; both chose matching tungsten rose gold bands.
Love at First Sight
Doshia found her fit-and-flare Allure wedding dress at the first bridal store she visited after trying on fewer than 10 options. "I stepped into it and after one look in the mirror, I just knew," she says. "The lace, the sparkle, the way the dress accentuated my curves, the silk champagne underlay, the long train with silk buttons that went from the back down to the end of the train—I was in love."
She added a little extra glitz with embellished peep toe heels from Badgley Mischka and a cathedral-length veil (which she removed before walking down the aisle).
Doshia's bouquet from Sweetness & Light Floral Design included lush pink and white flowers tightly arranged in a traditional round shape. "Rustic summer blooms like cosmos and cafe au lait dahlias were balanced with romantic full blooms of roses and peonies," says the bride.
Look of Love
Tash and Doshia saw each other before the wedding as they posed for portraits on The Lighthouse property. "As I walked up to Tash, I felt so many emotions—happy, excited, and relief that the day had finally come and I was going to marry my forever love," says Doshia. "Also, I couldn't get over how amazing she looked!"
Under the Arch
The outdoor ceremony took place in front of a custom wooden frame, accented with pretty floral arrangements in shades of pink, white, and green. "My favorite flowers were those on our wedding arch, which also had the most beautiful ivory draping," explains Doshia.
Tash and Doshia chose foliage accents with longer leaves that added movement to their arrangements. "While envisioning our palette for the wedding," they say, "we used a garden-style approach to enhance the rustic glam vibe we were creating."
Eyes on Each Other
Doshia walked down the aisle solo to "Make Me Whole" by Ariel Lemeux—one of the day's high points for Tash. "After I reached my destination under our beautiful arch, and my beautiful wife stepped out of the lighthouse on the second floor to reveal to everyone her gorgeous dress," says Tash, "I remember thinking to myself, 'Wow, this is finally happening—I'm about to marry my best friend.' As she walked down the steps and closer to me, I remember following her with my eyes full of pure admiration, joy, love, and gratitude. She looked absolutely beautiful."
A Family Affair
Doshia's brother Cheron stepped in to officiate the ceremony—a family affair that included a poem read by one of Tash's cousins and a prayer led by Doshia's mom. "We wanted our ceremony to be meaningful and heartfelt," says the couple.
With This Ring
The duo exchanged rings after delivering personalized vows. "We wrote our own vows, which were the perfect mix of humor and love," says the couple. "For a lot of our family and friends, ours was their first same-sex wedding, and we wanted to showcase that our wedding is just like any other hetero wedding. Love is love."
Ready to Party
The happy couple exited the ceremony to "I Want You" by Luke James and led guests to a cocktail hour on the deck next to the ceremony lawn. Bartenders from Pour Girl Bartending served up two signature drinks—Hennessey Lemon Drops and Strawberry Mules—while DJ Beat Thoz lined up a collection of classic and current R&B favorites.
Along with a cocktail hour photo booth set up with a background view of the waterfront, the couple also offered lawn games for guests to enjoy. "We put personal touches throughout the evening," says the couple—like bringing in a cornhole set with a Golden State Warriors design as a nod to their love of the team.
In lieu of escort cards, the couple printed their table assignments on blush-colored paper and displayed each card on wooden easels. The distressed wood, delicate metalwork, and elegant script continued the rustic glam décor scheme.
Meal with a View
Tash and Doshia took full advantage of The Lighthouse for their reception, serving dinner on the main lawn and moving their guests inside for dancing. Round tables dressed in champagne-colored linens contrasted with darker wooden chairs, while the mountains and marina created a stunning backdrop.
A Sunny Accent
Low centerpieces in shimmering gold vessels relied on the same color scheme as the ceremony flowers. "Seasonal textural elements and the cool-toned greens of eucalyptus rounded out all of our arrangements," says the couple. "Our florist suggested we add just a hint of yellow to really add a charge of energy to the flowers, and create a beautiful and joyful moment for our guests to enjoy.
For dinner, Checkers Catering served an "elevated BBQ menu" that the couple chose in honor of the fundraiser that kicked off their relationship. An on-site grill and cast iron skillets gave the buffet a homey feel, while the menu of grilled skirt steak, barbecue chicken, roasted potatoes, honey cornbread, and vegetables with balsamic drizzle gave guests plenty of options.
Tash and Doshia offered a dessert table stocked with cupcakes in three flavors—red velvet, key lime cream pie, and chocolate—plus chocolate-covered strawberries and chocolate chip cookies. They also cut a semi-naked lemon cream pie cake decorated with cut flowers from Cupcakin' Bake Shop.
On the Dance Floor
After sharing their first dance to "Why I Love You" by Major, Tash and Doshia started the evening with a high-energy tune: "After our song finished playing, we went into a quick dance break to the chorus of 'That's My Best Friend' by Tokyo Vanity," says the couple.
Doshia later traded her ceremony gown for a strapless ivory jumpsuit from Express comfortable for a night of dancing. "I blinged it out with a jeweled waist belt and sparkling Kate Spade tennis shoes," she says. As the dancing continued, a French fry bar offered guests a chance to refuel with a late-night snack.
Photography, Tyrenda Pentecost
Location, The Lighthouse
Event planning, A Monique Affair
Catering, Checkers Catering
Flowers, Sweetness & Light Floral Design
Cake, Cupcakin' Bake Shop
Music, DJ Beat Thoz
Rentals, Standard Party Rentals
Bridal gown, Allure
Doshia's shoes, Badgley Mischka
Hair, Brittany Pless
Makeup, Tremiyya Bumpus
Bridesmaids' dresses, Weddington Way
Wedding suit, Men's Wearhouse
Bartending, Pour Girl Bartending
Engagement Ring, Verragio