Conquer that pile of thank-you notes in seven simple steps.
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One of the biggest post-wedding stressors can be thank-you notes. That pile of notes can start to feel endless after the whirlwind of wedding planning! Thankfully, we have the perfect plan to help you conquer your thank-yous without feeling overwhelmed. Use our seven tips and you'll find that writing thank-you notes can be a breeze. So check this task off your to-do list and impress your guests with your timely thanks.

Step 1: Order thank-you notes ahead of time.

"When you order your invitation suite, make sure it includes thank-you notes," says Debbie Geller, owner of Geller Events. If you already have the thank-you notes ready to go, it's one less thing you'll be scrambling around for post-wedding. Plus, you can write thank-you notes for gifts as they arrive (see step 5).

Step 2: Manage the master list.

Organization is the key for well-timed and well-executed thank-you notes. "When tracking your RSVPs in your master spreadsheet, include guest addresses and a column for gifts, date received, and thank-you notes sent," says Rosemary Hattenbach, creative director and principal planner, Rosemary Events. Not only will it save you time, it'll help you stay organized so no gift gets overlooked.

Step 3: Pre-address the envelopes.

Order thank-you notes with your return address already printed on them, says Hattenbach. It's little time-saving secret. You can take it a step further, says Geller, by addressing thank-you notes when you address your wedding invitations. That way all you'll have to do is write out the thank-you note and drop it in the mail.

Step 4: Pre-write a few templates.

Creativity can start to run dry when you're writing dozens of thank-you notes. "Before the wedding, write several versions of standard thank-you notes that will work for the types of gifts you registered for or anticipate receiving," says Geller. The trick is to also consider who you're writing for. So think about your guest list. Family may get more personal notes, while work colleagues may get something a little less specific. Use the samples to guide your writing when you get writers' block.

Step 5: Say thanks as gifts arrive.

You'll likely get some gifts, specifically from pre-wedding parties, out-of-town guests, and guests who can't make it, before the wedding. Hattenbach says not to delay in these situations. Get those thank-you notes out right away. Not only is it simply polite to say thank-you as soon as possible, it's also important to acknowledge that the gift was received so the gift-giver isn't left wondering. "No one wants to place or receive an awkward phone call asking if a gift has been received," says Hattenbach.

Step 6: Make the time.

Set aside a bit of time each day to write a few thank-you notes. "Writing five to 10 notes a day is much easier on your schedule (and your hand) than attempting to write 100 in a weekend," says Geller. Getting a bit off track? Geller recommends holding out on things you want to do until you've written that day's notes. It's great motivation. If you're excited to go see a new release in the theater, tell yourself you can't leave until that day's notes are done.

Step 7: Divide and conquer.

There are two sides to every family, so divide up thank-you notes accordingly, says Geller. This is a good first test in working together as a married couple. Even better, you'll be way ahead of the game if you do it this way. Etiquette guidelines say you have three months to send thank-you notes, but you'll be done way before the deadline if you work together.


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