It may take some careful planning on your guy's part.

By Nancy Mattia
March 29, 2019
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Every bride would agree that there's nothing better than knowing that the two most important men in her life feel close to each other, too. As the groom, it's your job to make an effort to get to know your future father-in-law. Assuming you two still haven't hit your stride, a few bonding sessions might be in order. Here are a few things every groom should know about making an effort to get to know his future father-in-law.

Make the first move.

Her dad may not be thinking about bonding with his future son-in-law, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't make the effort. While most men would be excited to get to know their future son-in-law a little better, he may be surprised you want to get together with him and not include his daughter (your fiancée) and he may say no. If that happens, casually ask him again at a later date.

Invite him over to watch a game.

It would be awesome if you followed the same team, but it's not a requirement. It's more about getting to know one another in a relaxed atmosphere. Something to watch on the big screen, a few of his favorite beers, and some great snacks will help dispel any awkwardness.

Enjoy a shared interest together.

Is he as fascinated as you are with drones/comic books/golf? (Ask the bride for suggestions.) The more common ground you share, the more you'll have to talk about.

Help him with weekend chores.

Could he use a second pair of hands putting up a fence or painting a bedroom? Offer your help, especially with a chore that you'll do together and gives you time to chat.

Ask for his help or opinion.

Most people like to feel needed and heard, so tap into his car-mechanic skills or ask his opinion of a new job offer you got. But don't fake it-wait until a real situation comes along or it may seem like you're patronizing him.

Find a safe space.

Your political views or religious beliefs may be completely different, but don't let that get in the way of getting to know him. Figure out something to talk about and agree to stay away from subjects that make his or your blood boil.

Be good to the rest of his family.

Nothing will score more points with him than if you show his wife, children, and assorted relatives that they're important to you, too. Make an effort to get to know them. By the time you get married, he'll consider you his son.


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