Keep these etiquette rules in your mind as you snap that first photo of your engagement ring.

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As any woman who's ever been engaged can tell you, you'll be ready to shout the good news from the rooftops as soon as you say, "Yes!" But before you pull out your smartphone and post your status update for the world to see, it's important you understand a few etiquette rules regarding social media and engagement announcements. Here, four things you should never post about your engagement on Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram.

Your Only Engagement Announcement

It's perfectly acceptable to announce news of your engagement on social media for distant relatives, acquaintances, and long-lost friends, but a couple's nearest and dearest should never read the news online. Your loved ones deserve to hear about your engagement face-to-face-or at least with a personal phone call.

Details of Your Diamond

Naturally, most women want to flaunt their sparkly engagement ring, and while there's nothing wrong with posting a tactful image of your new diamond, avoid sharing intimate details about it. The cost, number of carats, and quality of the diamond should all be information you keep to yourself. Furthermore, you should never discuss anything you aren't happy with or would have done differently.

Any Engagement Gifts You've Received

There's no need to post photos of any engagement gifts you've received, even if your sister just gave you the most beautiful ring dish you've ever seen. The individualized shout-out may make others think that gifts were necessary, or that their gift, if they gave you one, was inadequate and unappreciated. Instead, express your gratitude by writing the giver a heartfelt thank-you note (which shouldn't be shared with the rest of the world).

Your Big-Day Plans

If you already have a date in mind, keep it to yourself. Reading about your plans on social media may make guests think they should expect an invitation. Odds are you don't have anything to share just yet, but even including something as simple as the year you intend to get married could cause confusion down the line.

Comments (1)

Martha Stewart Member
October 15, 2020
I so agree with the "It's your only engagement announcement." The same goes for announcing you're pregnant, especially if it's your first child. Close relatives can easily be hurt and think that you don't think they are important enough to tell. It kind of comes across as "You're really not a close member of the family" and cold. It can also backfire, because not only are your relatives and close friends reading the news, but people you may not even know. This risks your closest relatives finding out through work place gossip, before they even see your post. Ouch!