While it's incredibly frustrating, there are a few reasons why this could be happening.

By Aleesha Thomas
April 29, 2020

Nothing is more annoying than trying to track down late wedding RSVPs. If you've included a self-addressed and pre-stamped envelope, it feels like there's no reason for guests not to send back their reply in a timely manner. Plus, so many details of the wedding, including seating assignments and the costs of final payments, are dictated by your final guest count. While it's incredibly frustrating, there are a few common reasons why your guests simply aren't dropping their response cards in the mail. Here, we break down why your guests aren't letting you know if they can make it to the big day or not, and what to do about it.

They Are Waiting to See If They Can Make It

Some guests, especially those from out-of-town, are probably hoping to secure affordable transportation before letting you know whether or not they can make it to the wedding. While it may not fit your timeline of when you would like to hear from them, they will ultimately let you know if they can or can't come. If they don't reply by the RSVP by date, follow up with a quick phone call.

You Did Not Offer a Plus-One

Guests may be apprehensive about sending back an RSVP if they have to attend the event alone. If you have a friend who may not know anyone else at the wedding besides you, consider extending a plus-one so that they can enjoy their time at your wedding and not feel like an outsider.

The RSVP Card Was Confusing

Asking guests to RSVP on your wedding website could be confusing, especially for guests who are not as familiar with this type of technology. Other common causes for confusion? The response date. Make it very clear when you'd like replies back by—"Please let us know if you can join us by April 1" or "Kindly reply by January 15"—so there's no guesswork. It's always nice to include an envelope with postage, too.

They Forgot

More often than not, your guests simply forget to send a card back. If the RSVP by date has passed, it's not rude to nudge someone to see whether or not they are coming to the wedding. Simply send out an email or a nice text asking their status. If you still receive no response, assume that the answer is no.


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