A Handy Workbook to Help You Write Your Wedding Vows
Simply download and print our pamphlet, then start composing without fear of writer's block (trust us, the questions are comprehensive). Have the best man carry the finished product to the altar. The best part? You can scratch memorizing the lines off your to-do list, and have a keepsake for your first anniversary-and years to come.
1. Download and print our vow workbook on computer paper.
2. Stack pages in printed order, held horizontally. Then, fold the entire stack in half, left over right (forming a booklet).
Good to Know: Use the page numbers as a guide.
3. Take one sheet of cover paper, flip it horizontally, and fold it in half, left over right.
4. Take the folded booklet and slip it into the folded cover page so that both "binds" are positioned at left, and the cover page becomes a book jacket. Crease the entire book several times until all pages are stiff.
5. Take the ribbon and cut it at a length of at least 22" (double the height of the cover page), adjusting as desired, with a longer piece of ribbon creating a larger bow, and a shorter piece, a smaller one.
6. Lay the piece of ribbon, flat, and lengthwise, and place the book on top, centered on the ribbon. Take both ends of the ribbon and tie a bow, centered on the booklet's bind.
Good to Know: Because the ribbon isn't glued or fastened in place, it not only embellishes the simple vow workbook, but also make for a pretty-and practical-bookmark, no matter what section you're working on, from brainstorm to final edit.
7. Start composing, Shakespeare!
HERE'S ARE THE PROMPTS AND QUESTIONS YOU'LL FIND IN THE DOWNLOADABLE BOOKLET …
Think Back to How You Met.
In what month of the year and on which day of the week did you meet?
Where did you meet exactly?
Did someone introduce you? Who?
What talking points, laughs, or commonalities do you remember from your first conversation?
Describe the feeling and impression you had after parting ways.
Do you remember sharing the encounter with a close friend? How did you tell the story?
And how would you re-tell the story today?
Recall Your Favorite Memories.
Describe your first date from start to finish. Did you feel confident-and excited for-a second date? Why or why not?
What was the first holiday you spent together? How did you celebrate, with whom, and where?
When did you each first say, "I love you?" How did you feel when you said it? Heard it?
How long had you been together?
At what point in your relationship did you meet each other's parents? Where? What do you remember about the introduction?
Recount the proposal and both of your reactions following the question.
Describe your favorite trip you took together. What was the occasion, and what was your favorite-or most memorable-part of the adventure?
Ponder Your Partner-to-Be.
What do you admire most about your fiancé or fiancée?
What trait(s) do you respect most about him or her?
What makes him or her laugh, time after time, without fail?
When is your spouse-to-be at his or her best-and worst?
What's a cause that he or she will always get behind, no matter what?
List the most important people in his or her life, in no particular order.
Review Your Relationship.
In what ways are you alike? Different?
When you have a fight, which one of you is the first to apologize?
What are some of your favorite couple's "rituals"?
What's your favorite meal to share (whether at home or at a restaurant)?
How do you most like to spend time together?
What are you looking forward to most about being married?
Look for Inspiration.
Name a pair whose relationship you admire in life, history, literature, or cinema (or all).
Why do you respect that duo?
Name a pair whose relationship you do not want to model and jot down why.
What's your favorite work of literature (such as, poetry, a short story, a novel, etc.), and who penned it? What's the work's moral?
Name three characteristics of a lasting marriage, in your opinion.
What song, or songs, make you think of your future spouse? Why?
What notable couple do you most closely mirror?
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