Here's Proof That Opposites Really Do Attract
Real spouses reveal how they ended up with their unlikely matches.
It's a classic love story, and for many, a true one-you'll fall in love with a type of person you never expected. And if you're looking for more proof that opposites really do attract, then look no further. These real couples share how their spouses' quirky traits won them over, especially those traits that are entirely different than their own.
Tara says her husband Chris is the left-brain logic to her right-brain dreamer. The two have been spouses since high school, although not officially. "We were paired up and 'married' for the Marriage and Family Class and I had an egg baby-which I dropped-then he wrote the 10-page report on child abuse and neglect for us," she says. She was dating a marine who was about five years older than she was at the time, and Chris was what she loving called a "computer geek." Despite their differences, the two "just simply clicked," she says. "I take risks and he invests the dividends. But it's our differences that make us whole."
Michelle and her husband, who live in New York City, couldn't be more different in terms of lifestyle. "He is a healthy, clean-eating vegetarian while I have the biggest sweet tooth. He works out every morning at 4:45 a.m, but I always get sidetracked on my way. If I can find my way to the gym," she says. "He doesn't drink at all, while Napa Valley with a glass of Pinot Noir is my happy place." But the two are on the same page in the areas that matter most, including their goals and visions for their lives, and their love of their 16-month-old daughter. "We are committed to the idea of marriage and having fun, learning and evolving as people and as a couple."
Dollars and sense
Deborah and her husband, Darnell, met through a family member and have been married for 37 years, but the two still have completely different views on finances. "Financially, I'm a saver and adamant about maintaining significant cash reserves," Deborah says. "His mindset is that, 'We can't take it with us, so we'd better enjoy it now.'" To meet in the middle, they both agreed to a minimum cash reserve level, as well as their financial priorities. They also established a limit on how much either can spend without discussing it with each other.
Not so sporty
Alison, of Farmington Hills, Michigan, has been married to her husband, Dave, for 27 years. The pair first met in college while attending a dinner organized by the Jewish society (he was Jewish, she was not). But the two are different in more ways than religion. Dave is an outstanding sportsman, having played rugby at a university in England, and loves to coach and watch their three sons play many types of sports. "Me? Well, let's just say I'm athletically challenged; was horrific at sports as a kid (always last to be picked on a team) and didn't really enjoy watching," she says. Now, though she still doesn't play, she loves to watch her husband and boys participate and support them.