A Wedding-Planning Checklist for the Groom

That stereotype of the newly engaged guy saying to his starry-eyed fiancée, "Just tell me when to show up," absolving him of any wedding planning duties for the next year, has taken a nosedive. Today grooms want to be involved because it's their day too. Here's what he can do.

Figure out a Budget

You and the bride should add up how much each of you can contribute, plus any parental contributions, so you'll know whether you can plan a wedding for 20 or 200.    

Figure out the Guest List

Focus on people who've been there for you and will continue to have your back in the future. 

Choose a Date and Scout Sites

The more flexibility you have with the date, the better your chances of securing your preferred site for the ceremony and/or reception. Book as soon as you decide.

Pick Attendants

You'll need a best man and a couple of groomsmen and, if you've got more close friends, a few ushers to escort guests to their seats at the ceremony. 

Book the Vendors

That includes the caterer, photographer, and musicians/dj. 

Start Registering for Gifts

There's more to registering besides china and sheets. Include gifts that work with interests the two of you share, like a camping tent or camera.

Start Working on Your Wedding Website

Think of it as a 24-hour news channel, which you update frequently and is available to guests whenever they need info on your wedding.

Book the Officiant and Florist

Meet with them to get a feel if they're right for you.

Plan the Honeymoon

From relaxing on a faraway beach to speeding down a mountain, plan a trip you'll both cherish. 

Arrange Wedding-Day Transportation

If your style or budget is more car than limo, if it's got four wheels, it'll work.

Order Your Suit or Tuxedo

Make sure the other men in the wedding party, and possibly her dad and yours, put their order in on time too.

Choose Wedding Rings

Your rings could match or be totally different, based on your personal styles.

Go to the Tastings

If your caterer or baker offers one, don't miss it—it's a chance to eat and choose your reception menu and/or cake flavors and fillings.

Help with Invitations

Collect addresses of any of your friends or family members that the bride needs to send out the invites. Mail them six weeks ahead of the wedding.

Get a Marriage License

Check your state's requirement and make it legal!

Pick a Touching Mother-Son Song

Don't worry if you don't know how to dance. Hold Mom's hand up in the air, put your arm around her waist, and sway.

Pick Up The Rings

You both need to try them on to make sure they fit.

Get a Haircut

Don't wait until the day before when there'll be a million other things to do.

Pick Up Tuxedoes

Make sure the other guys pick up and try on theirs too.

Fill the Tip Envelopes

Give them to the best man to distribute at the wedding.

Check That the Best Man Has the Rings

Even if he's the super-responsible type—and especially if he isn't—remind him to put the rings in the jacket or pants he's going to wear to the wedding.

Eat Something Nutritious

A greasy plate of nachos won't pair well with a case of nerves, so go for the grilled chicken sandwich or a salad instead. 

Relax With Your Buddies

Play basketball, watch The Simpsons, go to breakfast with your siblings—whatever will relax you. 

Do a Dress Rehearsal of Your Wedding Vows

Your guests want to hear them so practice speaking in a loud, steady voice—no screaming but no mumbling either.

Show Up On Time

If anyone gets to be late, it's the bride!