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A Wedding-Planning Checklist for the Groom

By Nancy Mattia

July 29, 2016

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That stereotype of the newly engaged guy saying to his starry-eyed fiancée, "Just tell me when to show up," absolving him of any wedding planning duties for the next year, has taken a nosedive. Today grooms want to be involved because it's their day too. Here's what he can do.

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12+ months

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Figure out a Budget

You and the bride should add up how much each of you can contribute, plus any parental contributions, so you'll know whether you can plan a wedding for 20 or 200.

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12+ Months

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Figure out the Guest List

Focus on people who've been there for you and will continue to have your back in the future.

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12+ Months

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Choose a Date and Scout Sites

The more flexibility you have with the date, the better your chances of securing your preferred site for the ceremony and/or reception. Book as soon as you decide.

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12+ Months

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Pick Attendants

You'll need a best man and a couple of groomsmen and, if you've got more close friends, a few ushers to escort guests to their seats at the ceremony.

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9+ Months

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Book the Vendors

That includes the caterer, photographer, and musicians/dj.

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9+ Months

Start Registering for Gifts

There's more to registering besides china and sheets. Include gifts that work with interests the two of you share, like a camping tent or camera.

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9+ Months

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Start Working on Your Wedding Website

Think of it as a 24-hour news channel, which you update frequently and is available to guests whenever they need info on your wedding.

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6-9 Months

Book the Officiant and Florist

Meet with them to get a feel if they're right for you.

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6-9 Months

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Plan the Honeymoon

From relaxing on a faraway beach to speeding down a mountain, plan a trip you'll both cherish.

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4-6 Months

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Arrange Wedding-Day Transportation

If your style or budget is more car than limo, if it's got four wheels, it'll work.

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2-6 Months

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Order Your Suit or Tuxedo

Make sure the other men in the wedding party, and possibly her dad and yours, put their order in on time too.

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2-6 Months

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Choose Wedding Rings

Your rings could match or be totally different, based on your personal styles.

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2 Months

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Go to the Tastings

If your caterer or baker offers one, don't miss it—it's a chance to eat and choose your reception menu and/or cake flavors and fillings.

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2 Months

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Help with Invitations

Collect addresses of any of your friends or family members that the bride needs to send out the invites. Mail them six weeks ahead of the wedding.

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4 Weeks

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Get a Marriage License

Check your state's requirement and make it legal!

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Four Weeks

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Pick a Touching Mother-Son Song

Don't worry if you don't know how to dance. Hold Mom's hand up in the air, put your arm around her waist, and sway.

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Week Of

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Pick Up The Rings

You both need to try them on to make sure they fit.

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Week Of

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Get a Haircut

Don't wait until the day before when there'll be a million other things to do.

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Day Before

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Pick Up Tuxedoes

Make sure the other guys pick up and try on theirs too.

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Day Before

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Fill the Tip Envelopes

Give them to the best man to distribute at the wedding.

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On The Wedding Day

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Check That the Best Man Has the Rings

Even if he's the super-responsible type—and especially if he isn't—remind him to put the rings in the jacket or pants he's going to wear to the wedding.

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On The Wedding Day

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Eat Something Nutritious

A greasy plate of nachos won't pair well with a case of nerves, so go for the grilled chicken sandwich or a salad instead.

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On The Wedding Day

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Relax With Your Buddies

Play basketball, watch The Simpsons, go to breakfast with your siblings—whatever will relax you.

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On The Wedding Day

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Do a Dress Rehearsal of Your Wedding Vows

Your guests want to hear them so practice speaking in a loud, steady voice—no screaming but no mumbling either.

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On The Wedding Day

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Show Up On Time

If anyone gets to be late, it's the bride!

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Choose a Date and Scout Sites

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Pick Attendants

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Start Registering for Gifts

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Start Working on Your Wedding Website

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Plan the Honeymoon

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Arrange Wedding-Day Transportation

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Order Your Suit or Tuxedo

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Choose Wedding Rings

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Help with Invitations

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Get a Marriage License

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