Visit Martha Stewart Weddings Weddings Wedding Showers & Parties Rehearsal Dinner Jen Huang and Elihu Bogan's Chinese-Meets-Irish Welcome Dinner By Shira Savada Shira Savada Shira is the former real weddings editor for Martha Stewart Weddings. Editorial Guidelines Updated on September 20, 2018 Share Tweet Pin Email Trending Videos Jose Villa Photographer Jen Huang and Web developer Elihu Bogan hosted a backyard get-together for family and attendants in their Santa Barbara, California, garden. The lovebirds' intimate prewedding party on July 18, 2013, blended her Chinese culture with his Irish roots. The couple wanted the details to feel like they came from their own home, and collected many of them themselves in the months leading up to the celebration. The "sweetheart bench," found at an antiques shop, now resides in their foyer. 01 of 14 The Invitation Jose Villa Jen wanted to handwrite all of the invitations and paper goods because she felt that even if it wasn't the most professional calligraphy, it was still heartfelt and special. 02 of 14 The Fashions Jose Villa Elihu wore a summery J.Crew suit and Jen sported a traditional silk qipao from China. It boasted hand-embroidered flowers. 03 of 14 Her Look Jose Villa Jen wanted a 1920s-inspired hairstyle to pair with her Chinese dress. "I just love that era and it goes with all my jewelry," she says. Mimi & Taylor translated her vision and added a pop of color courtesy of Obsessive Compulsive Cosmetic's Lip Tar in "stalker." 04 of 14 A Chinese Tradition Jose Villa "Our wedding was very Western, so we wanted the rehearsal dinner to reflect my Chinese culture," Jen says. "We had a tea ceremony with immediate family before the meal." The ceremony took place inside their living room, a spot the pair now considers sacred because it's filled with the most wonderful memories. 05 of 14 On Bended Knee Jose Villa Traditionally, during the tea ceremony, you kneel and present your elders with tea and they give you gifts for your wedding. So Jen and Elihu knelt in front of their parents, served them tea, and thanked them for their sacrifices throughout the years. It was a tearful, but happy, occasion. See a Vietnamese Prewedding Tea Ceremony 06 of 14 Teatime Jose Villa TieGuanYin tea (a fragrant Chinese blend) was served in antique teacups the couple had collected during their years living in New York City. 07 of 14 A Bespoke Bar Jose Villa A DIY drinks station included Irish whiskey, a nod to Elihu's heritage. The antique barware was collected through trips across the country, and after being used at the rehearsal dinner was moved to its permanent residency in the couple's home. "Our houseguests can still use the same pieces that we had at the welcome dinner," Jen says. "These details tie our present day to the past and remain meaningful beyond that onetime use." 08 of 14 Tickle Your Fancy Jose Villa Jen calligraphed a sign to encourage guests to make themselves a yummy cocktail. 09 of 14 The Setting Jose Villa Wooden tables were set with arrangements of dahlias, garden roses, raspberries, scabiosa, fern, poke weed, ranunculus, and chocolate cosmos made by Poppies & Posies. In China, the color of weddings and happiness is red, so a palette of the symbolic color (plus pinks and other bright shades) was selected. 10 of 14 The Menu Jose Villa Laser-engraved wood detailed the tapas menu and doubled as a cheese board. Duo Catering prepared the meal, which was a tasting menu served family-style. 11 of 14 Setting the Table Jose Villa Each place was set with a wooden charger, antique crystal and flatware, and a single plum. 12 of 14 An Artful Touch Jose Villa Jen watercolored the place cards, which opened to reveal fun facts about the couple. This served as an icebreaker—with guests reading the tidbits inside and sharing them with one another. 13 of 14 The Guest List Jose Villa The backyard setting was especially moving: "We'd just bought our home and couldn't think of a better way to 'warm' it," says Jen of having their families join together to eat a delicious meal. Another homey touch: the music. The couple put their record collection to use to provide the soundtrack for the celebration. 14 of 14 Sources Jose Villa Photography: Jose Villa Catering: Duo Catering Flowers: Poppies & Posies Rentals: Borrowed Blu Hair and Makeup: Mimi & Taylor Was this page helpful? Thanks for your feedback! Tell us why! Other Submit