Smart Coping Strategies for the Overwhelmed Bride
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People frequently tell brides to relax and enjoy the process of planning their wedding. That's good advice but not always an easy thing to do. Planning a wedding requires a lot of time, energy, decision-making, money, and patience. And frankly, patience isn't easy to come by when family members are asking a million questions and everyone under the sun seems to have an opinion about how your wedding day should play out.
If you're starting to feel overwhelmed by all things wedding-related, take heart in knowing you are not alone. Also, there are things you can do to feel better so picking the menu or the linen color will actually be something you look forward to.
Hire an event planner
It takes a lot of work to coordinate such a major event as a wedding. If you don't feel up to the task but still want the awesome wedding you've always dreamed of, consider hiring an event planner. (Ask recent brides for referrals.) This clever pro can give you guidance, such as helping you pick a color scheme or suggesting caterers. Basically, a planner can do as little or as much as you need her to do. Many offer multiple planning options, from day-of coordination to full-service planning that lasts for a year or more.
Divvy up your to-do list
The bottom line is that if you're overwhelmed, you probably need to ask for help. The best way to get things done is to assign specific tasks to your mom, sister, future mother-in-law, fiancé, or best friend. The people who love you will want to help you, but they might not realize you could use their help so don't feel embarrassed--just ask. Be sure to play to their strengths. Your FMIL, an avid gardener. will be flattered that you want her help in picking out the centerpieces. Your sister will be happy to use her excellent organizational skills to figure out the seating chart with you. If someone asks if you need help and you can tell they mean it, by all means take them up on their offer. Sharing the responsibilities will help you breathe easier.
Host a DIY party
If you're stressed because you underestimated the number of DIY projects you could take on yourself and time is running out, invite your bridesmaids over to help. Since they're your closest family and friends, they won't mind creating wedding signage, making favors, or any detail that seemed so simple a few months ago but now seems like a giant headache. You'll have lots of laughs and make many memories. These are the fun moments of the planning, so let yourself relax and enjoy it.
Take a break
When you're planning your wedding, there are bound to be moments when you just need to step away from all the decision-making and budget talks and take a break. Go away for a weekend to relax and reconnect with your partner, or maybe just go out for the night, and talk about anything but the wedding. The next day you'll feel refreshed and invigorated and ready to jump back in.
Call a friend
Sometimes the best way to kick the feeling of being overwhelmed is to feel like you have backup. Call on your friends to listen to your wedding woes and reassure you that everything's going to be all right. Odds are high that you've got at least one friend who's a recent bride and been in a similar situation. She'll be able to empathize with you and give your some smart advice on how to get through the rough patches.