6 Tasks the Groom Actually Wants to Handle, According to Real Men
Believe it or not, your guy wants to be involved.
It's true that many of the wedding-related questions you ask your husband-to-be will be met with a "Whatever you think is best, honey." But just because he isn't invested in every single detail doesn't mean that he wants to be excluded from the planning process entirely. In fact, most grooms want to be part of the fun! You'll be celebrating together throughout your wedding day, and it will be most special if both the bride and groom have a hand in creating the day. So while he might not have much of an opinion on flowers or linen colors, there are a handful of tasks that your guy likely wants to work on. Here, real grooms share the aspects of planning they enjoyed.
Delegating tasks to family members.
If telling people what to do makes you nervous, your soon-to-be hubby might be able to help. "I come from a communications background, and I knew that my wife wasn't good at telling people how she felt. My official title was 'The Delegator,'" says Andres from Tucson, Arizona. "She would decide what she needed other people to do, then she would tell me, and I would delegate the task to someone in my family. I feel in this situation, [we made] the whole family one because we were able to show everyone equal love."
Handling legal matters and the venue.
Make sure to ask for his input in different because you might be surprised what the groom actually wants to do. "Legal/contractual matters were my go-to because I am a transactional attorney," says Peter of New York City. "[Also] selection of certain features, particularly [a specific] venue, because so much as my family has been a member of this congregation at this venue for generations, this and other feature selections will make the service and reception meaningful to me, as well as [my] bride."
Choosing the music.
Some grooms want to be involved with every aspect. "I was very hands-on and drove my now-wife a little bit crazy!" says Shawn of Pebble Beach, California. "While my wife would have been happy with a DJ, I wanted a live band. We fought a bit about this and I wouldn't budge. I scouted selected Steve Madaio while hearing him play on vacation. I worked with him on each song. My wife wasn't as particular and gave me the freedom to choose."
Managing the budget.
While table linens might not be of interest to your guy, pinching pennies might be in his wheelhouse. "Budgeting for everything!" says Jake of New York City. "Watching where every penny went. I shopped around for the best deals for many different aspects to get the best price (from venue all the way down to decorations) without sacrificing quality."
Serving as the official taste tester.
It's no shocking revelation that food is of interest to all parties involved. "Our venue did the food so we didn't have to actually pick a caterer but they gave us the menu," says Carleton of Wadsworth, Ohio. "And we could call certain weeks and try a pretty big portion of whatever they were having. They let us do that five times throughout the year. And I guess I just love food and rating things so that was enjoyable for me. It was cool kind of figuring out what people would like and what would go well together and they would give us a large dish of food so sometimes we would have a few friends over and they would try some too. Overall, just a really enjoyable experience."
Choosing the finishing touches.
Who says your guy is no good at DIY? Robert of LaGrange, Ohio, said he enjoyed making centerpieces. "It was fun. I took the labels off of the wine bottles, spay-painted them, cut curly willow branches (from the backyard) and put them in the glasses, and glued on the handmade flowers [the bridesmaids] made."
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